I took a drive with my father. He then began asking me life questions and wanting to pick my brain for reasoning. So i naturally began pouring out the litany of things that have been scaling my mind. My dad then interrupted the conversation by telling me an anecdote from his tribe.
"Can you take a fish and throw it in the air and call it a bird or grab a bird and throw it in the water and call it a fish?"
No. What you are is what you are. A fish has tendencies and so does a bird. they exist in their environment. they are safe there. You can’t make a fish more bird like. So therefore you can’t ask anyone to be what they are not. they will fight the environment. Exist also in yours. Yet be wise enough to know yours.